Bypass the Bypass

gastric bypass-1My youngest son is at that age where he’s recently graduated from the pediatrician and has begun going to the family doctor. Conversations have switched, accordingly, from team sports to “sex, drugs, and rock and roll talks,” as the doctor calls them. No longer do we have the nice nurse come in for shots, but we’re handed a lab slip and told to high-tail it over to the lab.

While at the lab waiting for the dreaded “blood draw,” a woman in the waiting room struck up a conversation with me. My kids were confused. They were pretty sure I didn’t know her (and I didn’t), but she was speaking filter-free about the health journey she was on.  This came up because she was drinking a small bottle of water and she said, “Man. I can’t even drink half of this. My stomach’s about this big right now,” and she held up her hand making a circle with her thumb and forefinger.

Turns out, four days ago she had a gastric bypass down at UC Davis. She was supposed to stay down there, but had decided that didn’t work for her so she’d come home. She talked about how painful the surgery was, how she’d had to take multiple pain meds and give herself so much morphine on the self-regulated drip that she couldn’t breathe at one point. She told us how she had staples all over her stomach and wasn’t supposed to drive, but couldn’t stand the dependency factor on her friend, so chose to anyway despite the risks. I couldn’t help but feel how this was not the easy way out that some people think it may be.

“How long will it take you to take off—“

“The weight?”


“They said about 9 months for 85 pounds.”

She said she’d tried everything. When I asked her if she’d tried Take Shape for Life, she said no, that was the one thing she hadn’t tried. Now I know everybody’s different, but if it took me 6 months to lose 80 pounds without pills, surgeries, morphine, etc., isn’t that at least worth a try?

I feel sad when I talk to people in this situation. I feel like I just missed an opportunity to help them down a completely different path filled with hope and empowerment, vs. a lifetime of side effects. TSFL doesn’t use money on advertising so it’s a program that depends on word of mouth. It’s a fantastic program and I’ve personally helped over 70 people drop around 3,500 pounds collectively over the last 4 years. That’s just me, and there are many other health coaches out there like me. Not everybody sticks with it, but all those that do, consistently lose each week, and incorporate all types of healthy habits that will keep them mentally and physically healthy throughout their lives as they continue to apply them.

Please, if you know anybody that is considering gastric bypass, send them to me or another health coach you know, and at least let them try this program. The permanent repercussions from the surgery are just not worth at least giving the program a shot. What do they have to lose besides weight?

About @jamieweil

Parent, teacher, writer, filmmaker, youth mental health advocate. Passionate about having new conversations surrounding youth mental/brain illness and suicide awareness. Author of YA novel, First Break, released Wednesday, October 10, 2018, World Mental Health Day. Available on Amazon, Kindle, and available for request through your local bookstore. New YA Novel, Intuition, to be released Summer 2019 ( Concurrently producing the groundbreaking docuseries A Crazy Thought, a sharing of hope and help from the voice of a parent and teacher ( Working with award-winning female filmmakers to bring about a new conversation in youth mental health.
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4 Responses to Bypass the Bypass

  1. Janet says:

    Oh my, as I read this I immediately went into “nurse” mode and wondered what was that woman thinking going against so much of the post surgery plan of care. That aside, people want a quick fix and aren’t willing to try other options that require discipline, time and life style changes. Then I ask myself, are they going to be able to change their patterns after surgery, if not they will be back where they started.

    • jamieweilhealthcoach says:

      And so that’s the thing. It’s neither quick, nor easy. It’s filled with recovery issues for the rest of their lives. Yikes. But, yeah, the patterns. 85% of people gain their weight back under any circumstances. Sigh. It’s a process.

  2. Professions for PEACE says:

    Thank you for sharing this important info Jamie! I didn’t realize you had another site about this healthy program and I’m so excited to check it out. Anything that helps us focus on developing new, good, healthy habits is up my alley. 🙂 I really respond best to a gentle approach, and I thank you for presenting your healthy attitudes and life habits in such a welcoming manner. Bless your heart! Hugs, Gina

    • jamieweilhealthcoach says:

      It’s a process for all of us, isn’t it? I tend to be way more interested in all things spiritual and leave my body temple to fend for itself. Health coaching helps me balance that out because, like Ralph Waldo says, “One of the greatest compensations on this earth is that we can’t truly serve someone else without serving ourselves.” Sending you love beams, Gina!

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